skeptic feminist

five hours of singing nonstop flew by as if it were a blink of an eye. so much for happy hour. it should've been sad wallet.

while we were sitting there staring at flying lyrics it was pretty interesting noting the differences between western &asian songs (there we go again with the dual culture) and the generally conservative nature with which asian songs were written (in this case i meant chinese). consider usher's "love in this club" as opposed to 羅志祥的 戀愛達人. to any degree there'll be biases such as my not knowing all of the contents of asian songs or neglecting the fact that there are also love songs like chris brown's "with you". Asian songs in general relatively lack the sensuality displayed blatantly in western ones. i guess again its cultural differences... (but thats not an explanation! that was considered the bs conclusion that came through with our tok project about cultural differences & masculinity. sigh. those good ol' days)

ironically this time that i went back to taiwan i was told that though couples flood the streets they see the concept of having a relationship in a less serious light... people in the game just for the chase. anyways. so on the way home mel and i had a pretty interesting conversation about how her being a skeptic feminist (and myself to some degree) change our way of looking at the role of men. no mel, it's not the issue of men disparaging women. i can see that equality will come through once the ego trippers learn acceptance and women stop using the gender card. it does take work from both sides. this applies the same way with the minority. there's almost no way of accelerating the process of equality, though i only see surface efforts at the moment in promoting equal opportunity. i'd really like to see what would happen if obama becomes president..

so this issue of a feminism came on a more local and intimate level as our discussion progressed: why some women need the men to complete them and end up losing track of their own character. yes, to love and be loved does bring happiness, but it doesnt take so much sacrifices on one side and to let infatuation take over... doesn't the entire concept of falling in love as yourself seem attractive enough?
im thinking of 惡作劇之吻 It Started With a Kiss. and i honestly dont see anything appealing about that drama or why it was so popular in taiwan. is it portraying the protagonist as a strong individual who knows what she wants and is willing to pursue it regardless of how much effort it takes? (and eventually succeeding) or a girl who lacks aspirations of her own and finds comfort in pursuing in another's footsteps? bottomline, i cannot stand that drama and i hate to see that its setting up a role model for audiences in that sense...

why it is that when it comes to "love" people change so much...

why do we make such stupid mistakes as a result of clouded judgment...

on a sidenote.

look its an ufo cloud =)

i've come to find that i no longer am coherent in my blogposts... call this writer's block.

zoom in

moving back to blogger.
it's time for another new start. it is afterall, a new chapter in the life of cindy wen.
time to throw away the regrets.
start off with the right foot.

took this while driving down amar.
i think it's pretty cool.
im remembering how before driving seems to be something that i enjoy tremendously - you can say it's a need-for-speed thing. i guess now that gas prices are so heart attack inspiring and now that ive began coaching annie's driving as well.
it became just an utility. it's like eating. =o
does this denote a little maturity in addition to before?
if driving is a milestone. does growing out of driving count as one too?
ha just blabbering away =)


i really miss you.

and i want to congratulate bummy again for getting your license!